“…You don’t THINK you’re trying to control me. But you are.”
When I failed to agree with my ex, I was accused of being controlling and causing him anxiety. It was dumbfounding!! Very frustrating to say the least.
Man, he really had my mind doing somersaults with this one. I immediately backed off big time and thought for days, “Am I trying to control him? …No one else is saying anything about him and her acting inappropriately, so it must be me… He must be right… I must be extremely controlling and I never knew it…”
I still question myself some days, as to exactly how someone else would have handled this situation. Like H, who he claimed was cool and levelheaded enough to give him all the space he wanted AND to still trust him, so she was worthier of his dedication. Still working through the questions.
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