Quotes from an Emotional Cheater

Remembering it all, one bullsh*t line at a time

Month: October, 2012

“She was still just a friend…”

“She was still just a friend, all the way up until we started dating.”


[Two weeks after we breakup…]

[Two weeks after we breakup, M and H start dating. I don’t find out until almost two months later]

“You need to start moving on…”

“You need to start moving on and getting over this as soon as you can.”

“It’s clear to me now…”

[One week post-breakup]

“It’s clear to me now that this was a good thing. Because I haven’t done anything nice for myself since I’ve been out of bootcamp, like buy a nice TV or anything. And now that I have a good job in a city I like, with enough money, it’s time for me now to enjoy being single and not have responsibility or obligations to anyone.”

“I want to be with you…”

“I want to be with you… but I don’t want to keep hurting you.”

“When I brought up trial-break-up…”

“When I brought up trial-break-up this morning, I didn’t actually think you were going to do it, and now I feel horrible. As soon as you left I started missing you and I felt numb. Do you want to talk about it?”

“I’ve been thinking we should…”

“I’ve been thinking we should take a trial break-up when you go to Breckenridge… no, I’m not sure about it. But I want to see if I’m going to miss you or if I’m just going to feel a huge sense of relief once you’re gone.”

“I’m not in a place where I’m willing…”

“I’m not in a place where I’m willing to protect our relationship by toning it down with H—even though I’ve thought about dating her. I want to explore all possibilities at this point.”

“What is H giving me…?”

“What is H giving me that you can’t? A social life.”

“The reason I have different…”

“The reason I have different physical and emotional boundaries is because with physical cheating the boundaries are more clearly defined, and it’s clear what’s wrong and right. With emotions, it’s more subtle and ambiguous, which is why I allow myself more freedom and license.”